More Drama!

Jah didn't call, but simply showed up. For those of you paying attention, and interested, here is how it went.

Jah - "Hi baby"
He leans in for the expected French-Kissing-Frenzy I always greet him with. I pull the I-wouldn't-touch-you-with-a-ten-foot-pole head jerk, I took a step back and address him again.

Me - "Hi, I am mad at you.'

Jah - "Why?" For a minute it is like he actually has no idea why I am mad. Arrrgh!

Me - "Where is your cell phone?"

Jah - "I don't know, I think I lost it."

Me - "You left it in Montclair two nights ago, you left it at I___'s house"

Jah - "I was there yes, but I thought I had lost it."

Me - "I know, because I called you on saturday morning and she answered."

Jah - "What? She knows not to answer my phone."
I must be stupid or something. Maybe it is the vapors from his dick , but I am beginning to feel a little foolish about getting mad. But he is not upset like I am that he actually was there and that he left his phone.

Me - "That isn't the point. You slept over there, you left your phone and she answered. Why were you there? What gives her the right to answer your phone?

Anyway, I dumped him a few minutes later, I was tired for the eloborate stories and explainations for everything and being the very last person to find out vital information.

I mean here is I am, the very last person to find out that he shares an apartment with his ex (Yes folks, that damned word again, "SHARES"). He owns half a business with her! They were together for 12 years, lived together for 9, and engaged for 1! Does anyone else have a problem with tis scenario.

So I told him, "either you move out, and get a new phone", because they are sharing a phone plan! (there it is again) or I don't deal with him again. His excuse (because at this point it is an excuse) It is cheaper to...you guessed it ladies and gentlemen...SHARE!

With all this sharing there leaves very little for me to have and I am suposed to give 100%. I am the OTHER woman, I am the third party to this triangle and it is an uncomfortable place to be. I am in the dark about all the little details that make up his life. He comes to my house and is stressed out and does not talk to me about it. It is nothing!, he says. I guess he is too tired from all of the sharing he has been doing with her.

So, I had to say goodbye, I am frustrated and tired and years from now when I recall the drama for my youth I don't what to sputter through this portion out of embarassment over my weakness for him.

Part of me wants to believe that this situation can work but it bothers me to my very core that this is the situation that my 35 year old boyfriend chooses for him and I.

After we talked for a while I took him up to my place and...I am truly a sucker for a good dick.

PS. Then I broke up with his ass!

An End to the Bullshit

I called my boyfirend yesterday adn his ex-fiance answered his cellphone. I had spoken to him at midnight the night before and at 9:15 am the very next morning she was answering his phone. Considering that he had to be at work for 9:00 am, I had all the information I needed to know that he has slept over at her place.

The conversation went a little like this:

Me - Hello! (see I am all excited because I think I that I was lucky enough to catch him before he got into to work)

The Ex - Hello?

Me - Hi...I was looking for Jah? (see, I think I have the wrong number for a second cause it is a woman and not him)

The Ex - He is not here. Who is this?

Me - (Realization is s-l-o-w-l-y setting in) Who am I speaking to? This is Jah's cell phone. Who are you?

The Ex - You called me and you don't want to tell me who you are. Jah shares (yes ladies and gentlemen, she said SHARES) this phone with me.

Me - What?

The Ex - Who is this?

Me - What? (I am still stuck on SHARES) Look this is Jah's cell phone and I am calling to speak to him. I should not have to tell you who I am, and I am not going to.

The Ex - You are out of line. Who is this? (Score two for her, now I am being scolded like an adolescent and I am the one calling MY boyfriend)

Me - I already told you that I was not going to answer any of your questions. (One point for me)

The Ex - You are really out of line, I am -

Me - You know what, have a nice day ma'am - CLICK!

Needless to say that this was the candles on the proverbial cake of bullshit, omission and deception that I have been enduring with him for a while, I had had enough. I blew out my candles and went shopping.

My girlfriend and I got dressed and went out to party that night with two old friends, we both got our wounds and various aches licked. During pillow talk this morning I laid my problem down for my new bossom buddy. He told me straight - "He is a liar, not worth your time. Move on. Don't feel guilty. Just put his ass on notice and be done." He was right.

I have not heard from Jah in two days. He has both of my numbers and knows where I live and he has not called to offer an explaination or to say "hi". I think that is what hurts the most. I know he is hiding from me, and it is just really working my nerves that he won't just pick up the damn phone and be a man about it.

What can I do. Chalk it up to experience?!